This question pops up in my inbox more than any other. Well, besides the old “does penis size matter?” question, but still. But it isn’t just sexual novices who shoot this query my way, I am regularly asked how someone can have orgasms with a partner (usually meaning vaginal orgasms), even from friends who I consider sexually "woke" people.
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One of the reasons that people are anxious about talking about sex before they have sex is because they’re worried that setting out their expectations will “ruin the mood”. We need to stop worrying about “ruining the mood”. You can’t ruin the mood. Ok, youcanruin the mood, but not by talking about sex, and not by checking in for explicit consent before kissing someone.
I had sex yesterday. Now, to be clear, I haven’t had in-person sex since February. I haven’t even had Skype sex for ten days, because my partners’ libidos haven’t matched up with mine. I did have sex yesterday though, getting myself off three times before I collapsed in a heap on my tangled sheets, lauding the brilliance of solo sex.
My ex-boyfriend of almost seven years broke up with me - unexpectedly. I was crushed, my entire life felt as though it had come crashing down. Yet eight months later, still happily single, I can categorically say that I have never felt more liberated and more sexually fulfilled than I do now.