This question pops up in my inbox more than any other. Well, besides the old “does penis size matter?” question, but still. But it isn’t just sexual novices who shoot this query my way, I am regularly asked how someone can have orgasms with a partner (usually meaning vaginal orgasms), even from friends who I consider sexually "woke" people.

So, you want to enter the technologically advancing, vibrational sensational, dildo-wielding world of sex toys? Well this post might just help you with that! Whether you own a vulva or a penis, g-spot or a p-spot, I have highlighted some beginner toys that could be tailored perfectly for what you’re looking to explore. 

One of the reasons that people are anxious about talking about sex before they have sex is because they’re worried that setting out their expectations will “ruin the mood”. We need to stop worrying about “ruining the mood”. You can’t ruin the mood. Ok, you can ruin the mood, but not by talking about sex, and not by checking in for explicit consent before kissing someone.